How do you feel?

[Ausesken]

Wow Danny, congratulations!! Where there’s a will there’s a way!

As for me, I’ve been trying to organise a good celebration for two birthdays at the same time, but do you know how it feels when you want to do something nice and the person who is supposed to help you is constantly getting angry because they think my idea for the restaurant is not possible, without calling them and ask for it, and I persist? (finally I got tired and called myself and they said yes!) Or making bad faces when I ask them to do something instead of me because I’ll be at work from early in the morning until the evening and can’t do it myself? So, a person that keeps questioning my ideas without suggesting anything else. It would have been much easier doing everything myself.

 

[JSSArcos]

I took better note of English than Portuguese never in life happened to me ahaha , I had some difficulties in English some years ago , the forum has also helped me a lot

I'm very worried about the Portuguese discipline (I like the discipline, but the teacher does not explain the subject and I'm afraid of the exam I'm going to do next year) ...

But today I am very happy, I had a note of 18 to the test of history (so proud of me)

 

[Brandt]

Wow Danny, congratulations!! Where there’s a will there’s a way!

As for me, I’ve been trying to organise a good celebration for two birthdays at the same time, but do you know how it feels when you want to do something nice and the person who is supposed to help you is constantly getting angry because they think my idea for the restaurant is not possible, without calling them and ask for it, and I persist? (finally I got tired and called myself and they said yes!) Or making bad faces when I ask them to do something instead of me because I’ll be at work from early in the morning until the evening and can’t do it myself? So, a person that keeps questioning my ideas without suggesting anything else. It would have been much easier doing everything myself.

Why don't you just simply exclude them in your personal life, though?

 

[Ausesken]

Why don't you just simply exclude them in your personal life, though?

I can't, he's my dad. He always says he doesn't want presents, and therefore he thinks that preparing anything for anybody is a waste of time. He doesn't understand that both my mum and me like to see that someone has thought about us, and this doesn't necessarily mean spending money. Actually, the most sentimental presents are our favourite. Well, to sum up, he's been a very bad collaborator because he doesn't like celebrations. We respect he doesn't like celebrations, but we hate the way he tries to hold us back too.

 

[Brandt]

I can't, he's my dad. He always says he doesn't want presents, and therefore he thinks that preparing anything for anybody is a waste of time. He doesn't understand that both my mum and me like to see that someone has thought about us, and this doesn't necessarily mean spending money. Actually, the most sentimental presents are our favourite. Well, to sum up, he's been a very bad collaborator because he doesn't like celebrations. We respect he doesn't like celebrations, but we hate the way he tries to hold us back too.

I used to have a dad who was less or more like that. Not only would he ruin all sorts of fun stuff in the family, but also he would make it a matter of proud to show any sort of emotion toward even his family while he was alive. I talked to him about it when I was a teenager and explained him how bad it actually is to behave like that, but it didn't really solve anything. It's not like he didn't understand what I said, it was just so that he grew up without receiving any sort of love by his parents, and it was just not his thing to do it for us either. As I grew older, I kept a distance between me and him mainly for this reason, and some other stuff related to this problem. As far as I know about you, you are an adult who makes their own money and doesn't depend on their parents. Making things as official as necessary between you and him wouldn't hurt you psychologically, I suppose.

 

[Ausesken]

I used to have a dad who was less or more like that. Not only would he ruin all sorts of fun stuff in the family, but also he would make it a matter of proud to show any sort of emotion toward even his family while he was alive. I talked to him about it when I was a teenager and explained him how bad it actually is to behave like that, but it didn't really solve anything. It's not like he didn't understand what I said, it was just so that he grew up without receiving any sort of love by his parents, and it was just not his thing to do it for us either. As I grew older, I kept a distance between me and him mainly for this reason, and some other stuff related to this problem. As far as I know about you, you are an adult who makes their own money and doesn't depend on their parents. Making things as official as necessary between you and him wouldn't hurt you psychologically, I suppose.

I understand you. Well, my dad used to be a good dad, but in the last 7 years or so he's become another person. I don't remember the last time he said he loved me, I don't even remember the last time he made a compliment to us. When he drinks two beers, he's yet another, worse person. Alcohol makes him say very stupid and offensive things to us, reacts very bad to anything we say or do, and he is so arrogant that he N-E-V-E-R apologises for anything. I know it's not nice from me talking bad about my dad in a forum, but it's how he is. He was partly responsible for my depression. But he used to be a good dad, really. I don't know what happened. Perhaps radiotherapy affected him too much.

 

[DutchSuomiFan]

Hello guys, good evening.

After 7 months of rejections and false hopes, I can finally say that I have been hired.

I will be working as an account manager of sickness and disability benefits in downtown Brussels. Start date, 23rd April!

THIS IS SO GOOD OMFG I CAN'T BELIEVE IT!!

Proficiat!

 

[Ausesken]

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[mauve]

Haven't been online for quite a while ... not because I forgot you guys, but because I am learning for an important oral examination for my doctoral thesis right now that I have in two weeks. Passed the written thesis and have to do the last step now. When I have it behind me, I will be here regular again. Miss you all! And keep your fingers crossed for me, please!

 

[Milos-BC]

Good luck with your thesis Once everything is done, we are waiting for you.

 

[Mrvn]

I'm so happy rn. Just received an email from DiscoverEU telling me that I've won a travel pass for this summer. So this means I'll probably travel around some European countries almost for free.

 

[Ausesken]

I'll tell how I feel with a gif:

 

[DenizESC]

... .

 

[mauve]

I had my oral examination two days ago and passed it! I learned so much for it, it was pure stress and right now I feel like a heavy stone falling down my shoulders. Right now I am still very exhausted, need to come down a little and to relax. But I am so happy to be back here and talk to you all.

 

[Ausesken]

I keep feeling awkward with someone who I used to feel very comfortable with. Probably it will never be the same again, but for now I think it’s better giving time.

 

[mauve]

I keep feeling awkward with someone who I used to feel very comfortable with. Probably it will never be the same again, but for now I think it’s better giving time.[/QUOTand
Could happen out of different reasons, of course, and it did happen to me also. At one point I thought it would never be possible.. It took very, very long in my case, and slowly but surely we found back to our relationship we had before. So don't give up.

 

[Ausesken]

Could happen out of different reasons, of course, and it did happen to me also. At one point I thought it would never be possible.. It took very, very long in my case, and slowly but surely we found back to our relationship we had before. So don't give up.

I hope so, because only once every many years I “connect” with someone so that my words talking to them come out automatically and spontaneously XD. And now it’s like “what I say now?”, “should I say this?”, “I’m not interested in this topic at all”, and feeling all the time that what I say is not interesting for the other person. Like we don’t have anything in common (which might be a bit true).

 

[Ausesken]

I feel frustrated with the publich Health System –again-. I should have made a drama like I was going to die, because it seems otherwise they don’t even do X-ray. Knowing exactly what’s wrong? Nah, you better take ibuprofen and rest. Bye bye.
I see I will have to go –again- to a private doctor. This is what we pay taxes for? For ending up paying a private doctor and everything you need to find the origin of the pain? If there's pain, there's something wrong, it's obvious.

 

[Leydan]

I feel frustrated with the publich Health System –again-. I should have made a drama like I was going to die, because it seems otherwise they don’t even do X-ray. Knowing exactly what’s wrong? Nah, you better take ibuprofen and rest. Bye bye.
I see I will have to go –again- to a private doctor. This is what we pay taxes for? For ending up paying a private doctor and everything you need to find the origin of the pain? If there's pain, there's something wrong, it's obvious.

It's the same here. My mum literally had a heart attack and they left her in a room for hours and hours, and then she needed her gallbladder taking out and they didn't even send the information to the right department so she wasn't even listed for it. It's a mess, it really is. It's probably the same there as here, understaffed and a complete lack of funding. It seems to get people out asap rather than fixing the problem, and also far too many pen pushers behind a desk demanding targets.

All in all, I hope you're ok though?

 

[Ausesken]

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