Eek.
Tell me you're privileged without telling me you're privileged.
I don't know what your sexual/gender identity is, but your argument that sexuality is not traumatic for LGBT+ people is completely baseless and incorrect. I don't mean to come off rude, but this comment is severely lacking in perspective and I hope that you will be able to understand where I am coming from.
We live in a world which was created by and dominated by straight men. Anyone who is not a straight man has had to fight for equality, tolerance, and recognition, and this is a fight which continues today. The whole idea of 'coming out' is evidence of this - society naturally assumes that you are straight until you say otherwise. And this can be extremely traumatic if the people in your life don't accept that. There is a reason why rates of mental illness, homelessness, and su***de attempts are much higher amongst LGBT+ youth compared to heterosexual youth.
Being gay is being in a constant state of trauma. I have personally been too afraid to hold my ex-boyfriend's hand in public when walking past groups of strangers. I have had teenagers yell slurs at us while on a date. I have had classmates calling me gay as a child before I even knew what gay meant.
As a member of the LGBT+ community, your very existence is a political act.
Well, I am sorry to upset you, so accept my apologies before I tackle the contents of your post.
I am
gay myself, and I've been through the whole homophobia into bullying gamut, followed by depression and years of self-loathing. I've gotten out of it, but it has shaped my life more than anything else has.
So I KNOW what it's like to experience trauma. I understand how painful it is to be willing to show public displays of affection but not doing so because you're afraid to getting hate slung at you.
So don't worry, I read your post and it made me... emotional. I'm not saying I cried but it affected me enough to reach out to you, because I just want to hug you and make you feel less upset, ok?
However, what you're refering to is the cultural bit (which I foolishly forgot to address), while I was looking at things from a purely biological perspective. That is
my coping mechanism, if you will. People are mean and harsh towards things they don't understand or are different from what they consider normal. Thus, I feel the need to point out how stupid the logic behind "
homosexuality is an affliction" is. Science
itself desputes it. But anyway, more on that later.
As far our society, yes. You're right. Majority rules. However, we as
minorities need to understand that we
NEED the straights if we want to ensure our own survival. We need them as
allies. If we want to fight for our rights, we need to speak a language *they* understand and can empathize with. We need to understand their way of thinking, if we want them to listen to
us.
This
regardless of what a few individuals have put us through. Regardless of the fear that we have that history will repeat itself. We must be strong. We cannot show fear. We
must be willing to put our own personal trauma's aside for the sake of progress because the cause we're fighting for is greater than any of us. We need to stay
rational at least in public.
Looking at things from a purely
biological perspective I believe is more likely to yield empathy, and with it, progress. Homosexuality has long since been proven to exist in animals. It's been around for longer than mankind has been. Biologically, it's a divergence in sexual preferences and nothing more.
Socio-culturally speaking, everything surrounding Gayness is still very much alien to the everyday heterosexual because each society is shaped by whatever is in charge and in a majority. Normalizing divergences takes time. If your objective is to preach inclusivity in a short, three-minute time frame, you need to give it thought.
It often is better NOT to do it, than to do it poorly.
You
CANNOT make it all about yourself, because this problem is BIGGER than any individual. Self-centeredness is the
death of empathy.
You
CANNOT victimize yourself because this is ADMITTING that your sexuality is a disability. Pity is the
death of respect.
Being gay is NORMAL, and it's about time
everyone got the memo.