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    Re: How do you feel?

    Quote Originally Posted by AshleyWright View Post
    A while ago I spoke about a job prospect and major anxiety it was giving me, Well i've got some updates from it. I went through part of the application process for that Service operator job at Honda, but I found out it was only an apprentice level, so I dropped out of it. As that would mean my pay is like 3 an hour, which is an absolute big no. I felt it was the right decision for me anyway. Instead I applied for an internal promotion at work, it's something I've held back on but finally decided I was ready for it. It was a promotion in the place I work so I felt like I had it in the bag, I wasn't complacent in my application and even in my interview the person doing it said he it was nice to see internal staff put effort into an application, and that it was very impressive and well articulated. The interview went super well and ended well. I was feeling super positive about it and was sure i'd get it, I felt like I had an advantage as the only internal applicant. However... I find out today that I didn't get it, instead my boss decided to give it to a complete outsider. It felt like a major kick in the teeth tbh, why make me go through that entire application process compliment so much and then give it to someone else? My boss said the fact I get anxious was deciding factor and I should go on some internal courses for it, but I call major BS. Really I was very angry, and left the office to start working, but as soon as i got out there, a member of staff asked me If I was ok and I just instantly started crying like a total idiot. I was starting to enjoy work a bit more now, and it's just one of them big knock backs. I'm not sure where I go from here tbh. I was feeling much better in myself after cutting out the negative people in my life, and trying to focus on me for once, stop worrying about what ifs and establish some real goals going forwards but this feels so much like life saying "get the fuck back in your box".
    I know my words are not what you want, but as I understand your situation very well, I’d just say: don’t give up. You didn’t get it this time, but keep trying it and one day it will be for you. My experience in work tells me that when you less expect it, you get what you are looking for. The next time you will be more preapred, you won’t have anxiety because you will have experienced it before (or you will feel less anxiety) and in general time will play in your favour. You are young, don’t lose hope yet.
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    I know my words are not what you want, but as I understand your situation very well, I’d just say: don’t give up. You didn’t get it this time, but keep trying it and one day it will be for you. My experience in work tells me that when you less expect it, you get what you are looking for. The next time you will be more preapred, you won’t have anxiety because you will have experienced it before (or you will feel less anxiety) and in general time will play in your favour. You are young, don’t lose hope yet.
    No, your words are just right and it doesn't matter who says them. What you've said is true, it's just the shock of it. On reflection I actually don't think he wanted me to have it at all, but ofc couldn't stop me applying. If that was the case, I wish he could have just said.

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    Quote Originally Posted by AshleyWright View Post
    No, your words are just right and it doesn't matter who says them. What you've said is true, it's just the shock of it. On reflection I actually don't think he wanted me to have it at all, but ofc couldn't stop me applying. If that was the case, I wish he could have just said.
    Mmm...think about it in a different way: it’s a very useful experience for the next time you apply. Recently I talked with my boss about how many tests I did to work in a library and they didn’t choose me. We both agreed that these tests helped me know what I need to study harder, what I need to improve, what they usually ask, etc. I guess it might be useful for you too if you look it like this. One more experience to be more prepared next time! You haven’t lost time.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Ausesken View Post
    Mmm...think about it in a different way: it’s a very useful experience for the next time you apply. Recently I talked with my boss about how many tests I did to work in a library and they didn’t choose me. We both agreed that these tests helped me know what I need to study harder, what I need to improve, what they usually ask, etc. I guess it might be useful for you too if you look it like this. One more experience to be more prepared next time! You haven’t lost time.
    I know next time when they ask for weaknesses in an interview, not to list confidence as one, even if I try to spin it into a positive. My mum said pretty similar to you, take the courses and learn, they can only help and that it's one thing and many more opportunities will come along. It has been a bit of a learning curve in itself.
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    Quote Originally Posted by AshleyWright View Post
    I know next time when they ask for weaknesses in an interview, not to list confidence as one, even if I try to spin it into a positive.
    I learnt that very soon too XD. It was frustrating because they said they wanted honest people, but then being honest when telling that I am shy was bad I came to the conclusion that they wanted to be lied... Good luck with your next application(s), I have no doubt that you will get it.
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    Hello guys, good evening.

    After 7 months of rejections and false hopes, I can finally say that I have been hired.

    I will be working as an account manager of sickness and disability benefits in downtown Brussels. Start date, 23rd April!

    THIS IS SO GOOD OMFG I CAN'T BELIEVE IT!!

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    Re: How do you feel?

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    Hello guys, good evening.

    After 7 months of rejections and false hopes, I can finally say that I have been hired.

    I will be working as an account manager of sickness and disability benefits in downtown Brussels. Start date, 23rd April!

    THIS IS SO GOOD OMFG I CAN'T BELIEVE IT!!
    That's great news. Congrats, proficiat!!
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    Congratulations Danny! Such wonderful news.

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    Great news, Dany. Congrats and good luck!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Ausesken View Post
    I will never get over the fact that my hatred and disgust to myself, which I can assure you it was VERY real and put me on my limits, was called 'drama' by someone that allegedly was my friend and a reason to give me the cold shoulder. Nobody had been so mean to me since I was 14. Deep inside I thank this person for opening my eyes regarding my negativity and change my perspective of things; sometimes you need to be hit really hard to 'wake up' and do something with your life, but it still astonishes me how cruel it was. Like I had been a demon to deserve such a treatment

    But it really worked on me.
    I have very similar experiences so I can empathise actually.
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